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The Case Against Travel

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What is the most uninformative statement that people are inclined to make? My nominee would be “I love to travel.” This tells you very little about a person, because nearly everyone likes to travel; and yet people say it, because, for some reason, they pride themselves both on having travelled and on the fact that they look forward to doing so.

The opposition team is small but articulate. G. K. Chesterton wrote that “travel narrows the mind.” Ralph Waldo Emerson called travel “a fool’s paradise.” Socrates and Immanuel Kant—arguably the two greatest philosophers of all time—voted with their feet, rarely leaving their respective home towns of Athens and Königsberg. But the greatest hater of travel, ever, was the Portuguese writer Fernando Pessoa , whose wonderful “ Book of Disquiet ” crackles with outrage:

I abhor new ways of life and unfamiliar places. . . . The idea of travelling nauseates me. . . . Ah, let those who don’t exist travel! . . . Travel is for those who cannot feel. . . . Only extreme poverty of the imagination justifies having to move around to feel.

If you are inclined to dismiss this as contrarian posturing, try shifting the object of your thought from your own travel to that of others. At home or abroad, one tends to avoid “touristy” activities. “Tourism” is what we call travelling when other people are doing it. And, although people like to talk about their travels, few of us like to listen to them. Such talk resembles academic writing and reports of dreams: forms of communication driven more by the needs of the producer than the consumer.

One common argument for travel is that it lifts us into an enlightened state, educating us about the world and connecting us to its denizens. Even Samuel Johnson , a skeptic—“What I gained by being in France was, learning to be better satisfied with my own country,” he once said—conceded that travel had a certain cachet. Advising his beloved Boswell, Johnson recommended a trip to China, for the sake of Boswell’s children: “There would be a lustre reflected upon them. . . . They would be at all times regarded as the children of a man who had gone to view the wall of China.”

Travel gets branded as an achievement: see interesting places, have interesting experiences, become interesting people. Is that what it really is?

Pessoa, Emerson, and Chesterton believed that travel, far from putting us in touch with humanity, divorced us from it. Travel turns us into the worst version of ourselves while convincing us that we’re at our best. Call this the traveller’s delusion.

To explore it, let’s start with what we mean by “travel.” Socrates went abroad when he was called to fight in the Peloponnesian War; even so, he was no traveller. Emerson is explicit about steering his critique away from a person who travels when his “necessities” or “duties” demand it. He has no objection to traversing great distances “for the purpose of art, of study, and benevolence.” One sign that you have a reason to be somewhere is that you have nothing to prove, and therefore no drive to collect souvenirs, photos, or stories to prove it. Let’s define “tourism” as the kind of travel that aims at the interesting—and, if Emerson and company are right, misses.

“A tourist is a temporarily leisured person who voluntarily visits a place away from home for the purpose of experiencing a change.” This definition is taken from the opening of “ Hosts and Guests ,” the classic academic volume on the anthropology of tourism. The last phrase is crucial: touristic travel exists for the sake of change. But what, exactly, gets changed? Here is a telling observation from the concluding chapter of the same book: “Tourists are less likely to borrow from their hosts than their hosts are from them, thus precipitating a chain of change in the host community.” We go to experience a change, but end up inflicting change on others.

For example, a decade ago, when I was in Abu Dhabi, I went on a guided tour of a falcon hospital. I took a photo with a falcon on my arm. I have no interest in falconry or falcons, and a generalized dislike of encounters with nonhuman animals. But the falcon hospital was one of the answers to the question, “What does one do in Abu Dhabi?” So I went. I suspect that everything about the falcon hospital, from its layout to its mission statement, is and will continue to be shaped by the visits of people like me—we unchanged changers, we tourists. (On the wall of the foyer, I recall seeing a series of “excellence in tourism” awards. Keep in mind that this is an animal hospital.)

Why might it be bad for a place to be shaped by the people who travel there, voluntarily, for the purpose of experiencing a change? The answer is that such people not only do not know what they are doing but are not even trying to learn. Consider me. It would be one thing to have such a deep passion for falconry that one is willing to fly to Abu Dhabi to pursue it, and it would be another thing to approach the visit in an aspirational spirit, with the hope of developing my life in a new direction. I was in neither position. I entered the hospital knowing that my post-Abu Dhabi life would contain exactly as much falconry as my pre-Abu Dhabi life—which is to say, zero falconry. If you are going to see something you neither value nor aspire to value, you are not doing much of anything besides locomoting.

Tourism is marked by its locomotive character. “I went to France.” O.K., but what did you do there? “I went to the Louvre.” O.K., but what did you do there? “I went to see the ‘Mona Lisa.’ ” That is, before quickly moving on: apparently, many people spend just fifteen seconds looking at the “Mona Lisa.” It’s locomotion all the way down.

The peculiar rationality of tourists allows them to be moved both by a desire to do what they are supposed to do in a place and a desire to avoid precisely what they are supposed to do. This is how it came to pass that, on my first trip to Paris, I avoided both the “Mona Lisa” and the Louvre. I did not, however, avoid locomotion. I walked from one end of the city to the other, over and over again, in a straight line; if you plotted my walks on a map, they would have formed a giant asterisk. In the many great cities I have actually lived and worked in, I would never consider spending whole days walking. When you travel, you suspend your usual standards for what counts as a valuable use of time. You suspend other standards as well, unwilling to be constrained by your taste in food, art, or recreational activities. After all, you say to yourself, the whole point of travelling is to break out of the confines of everyday life. But, if you usually avoid museums, and suddenly seek them out for the purpose of experiencing a change, what are you going to make of the paintings? You might as well be in a room full of falcons.

Let’s delve a bit deeper into how, exactly, the tourist’s project is self-undermining. I’ll illustrate with two examples from “The Loss of the Creature,” an essay by the writer Walker Percy.

First, a sightseer arriving at the Grand Canyon. Before his trip, an idea of the canyon—a “symbolic complex”—had formed in his mind. He is delighted if the canyon resembles the pictures and postcards he has seen; he might even describe it as “every bit as beautiful as a picture postcard!” But, if the lighting is different, the colors and shadows not those which he expects, he feels cheated: he has arrived on a bad day. Unable to gaze directly at the canyon, forced to judge merely whether it matches an image, the sightseer “may simply be bored; or he may be conscious of the difficulty: that the great thing yawning at his feet somehow eludes him.”

Second, a couple from Iowa driving around Mexico. They are enjoying the trip, but are a bit dissatisfied by the usual sights. They get lost, drive for hours on a rocky mountain road, and eventually, “in a tiny valley not even marked on the map,” stumble upon a village celebrating a religious festival. Watching the villagers dance, the tourists finally have “an authentic sight, a sight which is charming, quaint, picturesque, unspoiled.” Yet they still feel some dissatisfaction. Back home in Iowa, they gush about the experience to an ethnologist friend: You should have been there! You must come back with us! When the ethnologist does, in fact, return with them, “the couple do not watch the goings-on; instead they watch the ethnologist! Their highest hope is that their friend should find the dance interesting.” They need him to “certify their experience as genuine.”

The tourist is a deferential character. He outsources the vindication of his experiences to the ethnologist, to postcards, to conventional wisdom about what you are or are not supposed to do in a place. This deference, this “openness to experience,” is exactly what renders the tourist incapable of experience. Emerson confessed, “I seek the Vatican, and the palaces. I affect to be intoxicated with sights and suggestions, but I am not intoxicated.” He speaks for every tourist who has stood before a monument, or a painting, or a falcon, and demanded herself to feel something. Emerson and Percy help us understand why this demand is unreasonable: to be a tourist is to have already decided that it is not one’s own feelings that count. Whether an experience is authentically X is precisely what you, as a non-X, cannot judge.

A similar argument applies to the tourist’s impulse to honor the grand sea of humanity. Whereas Percy and Emerson focus on the aesthetic, showing us how hard it is for travellers to have the sensory experiences that they seek, Pessoa and Chesterton are interested in the ethical. They study why travellers can’t truly connect to other human beings. During my Paris wanderings, I would stare at people, intently inspecting their clothing, their demeanor, their interactions. I was trying to see the Frenchness in the French people around me. This is not a way to make friends.

Pessoa said that he knew only one “real traveller with soul”: an office boy who obsessively collected brochures, tore maps out of newspapers, and memorized train schedules between far-flung destinations. The boy could recount sailing routes around the world, but he had never left Lisbon. Chesterton also approved of such stationary travellers. He wrote that there was “something touching and even tragic” about “the thoughtless tourist, who might have stayed at home loving Laplanders, embracing Chinamen, and clasping Patagonians to his heart in Hampstead or Surbiton, but for his blind and suicidal impulse to go and see what they looked like.”

The problem was not with other places, or with the man wanting to see them, but with travel’s dehumanizing effect, which thrust him among people to whom he was forced to relate as a spectator. Chesterton believed that loving what is distant in the proper fashion—namely, from a distance—enabled a more universal connection. When the man in Hampstead thought of foreigners “in the abstract . . . as those who labour and love their children and die, he was thinking the fundamental truth about them.” “The human bond that he feels at home is not an illusion,” Chesterton wrote. “It is rather an inner reality.” Travel prevents us from feeling the presence of those we have travelled such great distances to be near.

The single most important fact about tourism is this: we already know what we will be like when we return. A vacation is not like immigrating to a foreign country, or matriculating at a university, or starting a new job, or falling in love. We embark on those pursuits with the trepidation of one who enters a tunnel not knowing who she will be when she walks out. The traveller departs confident that she will come back with the same basic interests, political beliefs, and living arrangements. Travel is a boomerang. It drops you right where you started.

If you think that this doesn’t apply to you—that your own travels are magical and profound, with effects that deepen your values, expand your horizons, render you a true citizen of the globe, and so on—note that this phenomenon can’t be assessed first-personally. Pessoa, Chesterton, Percy, and Emerson were all aware that travellers tell themselves they’ve changed, but you can’t rely on introspection to detect a delusion. So cast your mind, instead, to any friends who are soon to set off on summer adventures. In what condition do you expect to find them when they return? They may speak of their travel as though it were transformative, a “once in a lifetime” experience, but will you be able to notice a difference in their behavior, their beliefs, their moral compass? Will there be any difference at all?

Travel is fun, so it is not mysterious that we like it. What is mysterious is why we imbue it with a vast significance, an aura of virtue. If a vacation is merely the pursuit of unchanging change, an embrace of nothing, why insist on its meaning?

One is forced to conclude that maybe it isn’t so easy to do nothing—and this suggests a solution to the puzzle. Imagine how your life would look if you discovered that you would never again travel. If you aren’t planning a major life change, the prospect looms, terrifyingly, as “More and more of this , and then I die.” Travel splits this expanse of time into the chunk that happens before the trip, and the chunk that happens after it, obscuring from view the certainty of annihilation. And it does so in the cleverest possible way: by giving you a foretaste of it. You don’t like to think about the fact that someday you will do nothing and be nobody. You will only allow yourself to preview this experience when you can disguise it in a narrative about how you are doing many exciting and edifying things: you are experiencing, you are connecting, you are being transformed, and you have the trinkets and photos to prove it.

Socrates said that philosophy is a preparation for death. For everyone else, there’s travel. ♦

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I'm a 24-year-old who's never been out of North America — and I don't plan on changing that any time soon

  • I'm 24 and I have never been out of North America.
  • This is for a lot of reasons, including my fear of flying and my financial situation. 
  • I'm not planning on changing this anytime soon, and I wish people would stop judging each other for their choices. 

It's no secret that, as a whole, society is obsessed with traveling. From the Instagram accounts dedicated to dream-like destinations to news stories about  people who  quit their jobs to spend all of their money on traveling , we love to romanticize the hell out of navigating the globe. 

It makes complete sense. Traveling can open you up to new experiences, friendships, perspectives, and life goals. But it's just not for me. 

There are a million articles online about how great it is to travel (see all of the wonderful content on INSIDER's  Travel section ), but there aren't as many that speak to my experience: a 24-year-old who has never traveled out of North America and has no desire to. 

Let me explain myself. 

I am terrified of flying, to the point of panic attacks. 

Being nervous about air travel is not exactly uncommon. In fact, the Federal Aviation Administration estimates that about  1 in 3 adults have some qualms about flying . But my fear of flying is intense. So much so, that my last plane trip resulted in me hyperventilating and being mocked by an entire baseball team. 

I haven't flown commercial in about 12 years and haven't flown at all in about eight. After my last flight, which was through a thunderstorm, I quite literally kissed the ground at the Pittsburgh International Airport and vowed to never put myself through that again. 

I know that with some work I could get over this fear, but right now, it's not exactly a priority for me. 

I suffer from anxiety, which makes traveling more terrifying.  

Traveling can stress out even the most "normal" people. Now throw in the fact that I have high anxiety, and it's a recipe for disaster.

Itineraries stress me out, and I spiral at the thought of plans not lining up perfectly. Being in a new place overwhelms me, as there are a lot of unknowns and I easily lose control of the situation. Something as simple as a taxi driver getting lost can make tears run down my face, which is just plain embarrassing. 

It's not that I avoid trips because of my anxiety. I still travel, thanks to Amtrak, but it takes a lot out of me. This makes traveling a lot less fun, though I try to enjoy myself. 

I've never really been able to afford to travel. 

Anxiety aside, money is the biggest factor that stops me, and many others, from traveling. We act like it's so easy to just stop buying cups of coffee and afford a trip to Italy, but it's not that simple. 

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I have massive amounts of student debt. I have a cat. I live in one of the most expensive cities in the world. But even when I lived in a smaller city in the Midwest, keeping food on the table was what weighed on my mind, not traveling. 

According to the Huffington Post, the average cost of a flight to Europe from New York is $832:  That doesn't even begin to cover food, activities, and lodging. Not to mention care for my cat, and the fact that I'd still have to pay rent that month. If you looked at my savings account, you would know that it's just not possible for me right now. 

People who didn't grow up well-off might find themselves in a similar mindset. Some fight it off and put any disposable income into traveling. For me, if I'm not using my money towards something tangible, it  feels like money wasted. 

We tend to shame people who choose not to travel and call them materialistic. But just because some people can save for a while and eventually afford a ticket doesn't mean it's possible for everyone. Some of us don't have that money to scrape to begin with and, if we do, we use it in a different way — and that's OK. 

I never thought traveling was an option. 

For those who grew up in a metropolitan city or with parents who traveled often, my resistance to travel may seem absurd. But you have to understand that, for me, traveling is not a natural thing. 

No one in my immediate or extended family has ever been to Europe (besides those who were born there and don't remember it). Only one has been to Asia, and that was for work. Trips outside of the US were pretty unheard of in my town. 

Of course, this has changed some. As I've gotten older, more of my friends have studied abroad and traveled on their own. Hell, my friend who didn't step on a plane until she was 17 is now a flight attendant seeing the world. 

It still blows my mind that my boyfriend often just drives to an airport and gets on a plane. It's just not something that seems like a "normal" occurrence for someone like me. 

I've never said I wasn't stubborn, so it may just take a while for me to adjust to the fact that I could get on a plane right now if I wanted to. But until recently, it never even crossed my mind. 

I've had life experiences that were just as beneficial as traveling. 

So many people I know value travel experiences above anything else in life. They frequently tell me how much my life would change if I drank wine in Paris or hiked in Thailand. And maybe they're right. 

But I also think that I've had life experiences that have benefited me in ways people who travel to every country in the world wouldn't get. 

As a journalist, I've spoken to animal trainers, ghost whisperers, survivors of unimaginable violence, architects, and pop stars. I've been to dozens of US states, and even parts of Canada. I've camped high in the mountains and rested on beaches. I've lived next to a farm and in a high-rise. I would not call my life insignificant just because I don't have a full passport. 

I consider myself a well-rounded person, though I'm sure others would not. And as I get older and (hopefully) more financially stable, I may also have an enviable Instagram. 

But for right now, I'd like us all to stop shaming people for their informed life choices. What's right for you may not be right for me, and that's OK. 

And if you see someone crying from fear on a plane, maybe try offering them your hand to squeeze, rather than pointing and laughing. It may just be me. 

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I Don't Want To Travel

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If you want to feel out of place tell your friends you don’t want to travel. The looks you’ll receive in return will run the gamut from shock and disgust to quiet pity. Admitting this is pretty much declaring ignorance and isolationism. It’s tripping down the stairs while crawling back into your doomsday bunker. Good, self-actualized people travel. If they don’t, they want to.

Somehow getting on a plane and going far away became the highest form of purchasable enlightenment. To experience real life is to experience it somewhere else. As a homesteader I chose the opposite. I haven’t left this farm for a single night in over five years, but I think my experiences have been just as life changing as the inkiest passport.

To love travel is to love the feeling of being uncomfortable in a controlled environment. It’s a very expensive roller coaster ride. You board the plane knowing that maybe some new experiences will slide out of your comfort zone, but they are still choices you made. We’ve all seen the Instagram feeds of zip lines, SCUBA dives, long hikes, and drinks on the beach. Whatever the itinerary it’s understood there’s a safe hotel room booked, plenty of cash set aside for meals, and soon they’ll be home again to explain how the temperature of beer served in restaurants varies based on country.

I see these pictures and feel no sense of envy or desire. I always saw travel as something anyone can do with enough money, time, and the wits to book a flight. By its nature travel is flirting. There is no commitment to the destination, only pleasure. Guest is a title travelers learn to accept. That word makes me cringe.

If travel is being recreationally uncomfortable in a controlled environment ― I chose the opposite. I’ve spent half a decade being cozy in a very volatile environment. I nested hard on a few acres on the side of a mountain. I run a four-season livestock farm alone.

“If travel is being recreationally uncomfortable in a controlled environment -- I chose the opposite.”

Imagine taking yourself out of your regular career and landing on a mountain farm with a flock of sheep. You have lambs to raise, a horse to ride, pigs to butcher, poultry to sell, vegetables to grow, honey to harvest. All without a spouse, children, or family members. It’s just you and the network of fellow farmers and friends you managed to cultivate. Now throw in hobbies like falconry, fly fishing, river swimming, archery, home brewing and the fiddle. Welcome to your new jobcation! Now don’t leave for 20 seasons and see what kind of person you turned into after all that. Beer temperatures vary based on exhaustion levels.

Both sides sound romantic and unrealistic to most people. Few can afford the time or money to travel the world or buy Heidi’s Grandfather’s place on the side of a mountain and get rid of their cell phone. The traveler and the homesteader are two sides of the same escape fantasy. Rivendell or the Shire? Do you want to relax around a different culture without responsibility or dig into your own so deep you’re weeding your tomatoes for fun?

I see how people could assume my farm is a cage. Some bluntly call it that to my face, which is a funny thing to hear from grown humans who will get in trouble with another adult if they aren’t sitting in a particular chair on Monday morning...

I don’t want to work a job I tolerate just to afford two weeks of entertained distraction from the previous fifty. If that means choosing this life that doesn’t allow travel, so be it. This place feeds me, needs me, and keeps me learning from mistakes while celebrating constant resourcefulness. It taught me what I am capable of and how strong I can be.

My vacations instead come two hours at a time every day. I can leave my computer to ride my horse up mountain trails or gear up for a hunt with my hawk . I can choose to take a ten mile run across the landscape I know as well as the sidewalks I strolled to school on as a child. I can nap in a hammock, pour a drink, or watch a movie. Not as sexy as a story about band I loved in a Dublin bar, but tangible every single day. I chose commitment over flirtation. I am not a guest.

“Travel if you want to. Don't travel if your couch makes you happier. No one is winning if they're chasing someone else's idea of happiness even if they were tricked into thinking it was their own”

Travel if you want to. Don’t travel if your couch and a Game of Thrones marathon makes you happier. No one is winning if they’re chasing someone else’s idea of happiness even if they were tricked into thinking it was their own.

The truth is you can’t buy enlightenment from a travel agent or harvest it from vegetables in your own backyard. We grow slowly over time. It doesn’t matter if you’re in an Ashram or Akron ― becoming a better person is putting in the work of getting older. For some it’s raising babies. For others it’s taking up politics, art, athletic endeavor or public service. Finding what you want out of life and working to keep it is the trick, without being sold any fantasy as salvation. You can’t speed up life lessons by changing your coordinates or refusing to chart them in the first place. But you can feel happiness if you learn how to eventually read your own damn compass.

Mine points to here.

Jenna Woginrich farms in upstate New York and blogs regularly at Barnheart.com

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19 Things People Who Seriously Hate Traveling Can Relate To

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1. Not knowing how to gently tell your friends that, no, you don’t want to go on a two month backpacking trip through Europe. In fact, you’d rather pluck out all your own eyelashes and glue them to paper like macaroni art.

2. Getting stuck going somewhere because you couldn’t bring yourself to be the Debbier Downer who said, “No, count me out because that sounds terrible.”

3. People asking if you have travel plans after graduation and 100% sincerely saying, “Yeah, over to my couch. I’m exhausted.”

4. Finding a place you feel comfortable and love, and never wanting to leave.

5. Like, ever.

6. Gagging whenever you see the word wanderlust .

7. Hardcore wishing teleportation was a feasible option. Way less hassle.

8. Quietly smiling in the corner when all your friends obsess over all the cities they can’t wait to visit.

9. Not having a prepared answer for when people ask where you’d most like to go.

10. Or, alternatively, having a prepared answer that isn’t necessarily reflective of how you feel. Just something to say because it’s easier than explaining you’re the freak who doesn’t care about travel.

11. Cringing at the Plague-like germ count on airplanes.

12. No, seriously. It’s disgusting.

13. Needing a Trip Survival Kit, and not like, for first aid purposes. But with things to help you simply survive the stress. Like sweatpants. Oh man, so many sweatpants.

14. Having suuuuper cute panic attacks when flying.

15. Occasionally getting the urge to look at Airbnbs in far off locations, but after perusing them for a few minutes quickly deciding, “Lol, naahhhhhh.”

16. Getting your fix to see the world by watching travel programs.

17. Wondering if people who are always on the road know there’s this extraordinary thing called Netflix.

18. Enjoying solo trips.

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Travel annoyances abound in the air and on the ground. Here's how to fix a few of them

"Carousel cozy-uppers" – travelers who crowd the baggage carousels – are a pet peeve for pilot and author Brett Manders. "I'm 100% certain that your bags will not come out any quicker the closer you are to the baggage carousel," he says.

What do you hate about travel? And is there any way to fix the problem, besides staying home? 

For Brett Manders, the answer to "what drives you crazy?" is simple. "The carousel cozy-uppers," he says. You know, the folks who crowd around the baggage carousel after a flight lands. 

"I'm 100% certain that your bags will not come out any quicker the closer you are to the baggage carousel," says Manders, an international airline pilot who wrote the book "Behind the Flight Deck Door."

The solution – at least to this problem – is simple, too. Some airports draw a line around the carousel and tell everyone to stand back until their luggage arrives. 

As the busy holiday travel season begins, let's talk about our travel annoyances and how to fix them. There are no reliable surveys that examine the entire travel experience, from planning to arrival. But you already know what grates against your nerves, right?

Hate to plan? Here's the fix

Travelers love to hate vacation planning, for example. Rey Alton, a travel advisor with Travel Leaders in Houston, says your anger is justified.

When air travelers go all DIY, they often purchase tickets they don't understand. "I see this issue arise more and more," he says. "Basic economy fares don't allow you to choose a seat, and to upgrade to a confirmed seat assignment can be pricey."

I think the fix for this problem is pretty straightforward: Make these stripped-down "basic" fares illegal. I mean, who doesn't fly with a bag or need a seat assignment? Whose plans never change? Not mine! 

Meantime, people like Alton – professional vacation planners – are the solution. A travel pro will keep you far, far away from these absurd airline tickets.

Travelers hate lines, too

How about long lines? Do those annoy you? Sure they do. I spoke with dozens of frequent travelers who loathe lines more than anything. "One of my least favorite things about traveling is waiting in line for TSA checks," says John Linden, a furniture designer from Los Angeles. "I understand that it's for our safety. Ultimately, that's a good thing. But no one wants to stand in line for 45 minutes."

Airports with the worst TSA lines:   These are the days and times you'll want to avoid

The solution: Hire more agents and add them at the busiest times. But the government moves even slower than those TSA lines, so good luck with that one.

In the meantime, passengers like Linden are applying for known traveler programs like TSA PreCheck , Global Entry  and CLEAR . That should move things along.

Interested in TSA PreCheck?  It might soon be cheaper and easier to sign up

Renewing or applying for airport fast pass Global Entry?  Brace for lengthy delays

Travelers can't stand travel industry deception

Travelers want the unvarnished truth. Consider what happened to Lauren Wolfe, an attorney in Washington, when she tried to book a hotel in Florida a few years ago. She discovered that after she selected the hotel online, it added a mandatory $25 per night charge. "I said to myself, 'This has got to be illegal,'" she told me. 

The hotels say it is legal. " Resort fees ," which cover extras like the use of a gym and "free" Wi-Fi, are common in the hotel business. Wolfe started a site called Killresortfees.com and made it her mission to destroy the fees. And that's the long-term solution to these unwanted extras. There ought to be a law.

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No wonder we arrive exhausted when we're on vacation

Is it any wonder that travelers arrive at their destination exhausted? It's the indignities we suffer in transit. That's what you hate about travel. 

The travel industry thinks suffering is a normal part of the travel experience. So it doesn't hesitate to sell you an airline ticket with stupid restrictions or a hotel room with an outrageous fee. It doesn't care if you have to wait in a long line. Or if you can't figure out how to plan your trip online without losing your shirt.

None of this should happen. The travel industry ought to set the standard for customer service. But until they do, at least we know we're in this together.

How to handle the hate

Take a deep breath.   That's the advice of Christine Scott-Hudson, a licensed psychotherapist. "Your deep, long breaths stimulate your vagus nerve," she says. That, in turn, promotes feelings of general well-being and safety. 

Take inventory of your situation.  Put your problem into perspective. Your trip will eventually end. You'll be home, far away from the stress of holiday travel. Might as well take another deep breath while you're at it. That's right. Breathe in. Breathe out. There you go.

Take action.  If you experienced something that made you hate to travel, try to eliminate it from your trip. Whether you're starting a site to protest resort fees, or just avoiding an airline or hotel in the future – do something.

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Why Pretentious Travelers Fill Me With Hate

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Nothing irks me more than people disparaging people’s travel choices. I don’t get why people do it. The whole “traveler vs. tourist” argument, talking about what makes someone a “real traveler,” and making fun of people’s routes — people waste so much energy trying to lift themselves up above others.

Isn’t travel supposed to make you open-minded?

I do this for me. This is all my journey. I’m not in a race for the most countries visited, street stalls eaten at, or festivals attended. I do what makes me happy, even if it’s some “touristy” destination .

There isn’t a single “authentic” version of travel. Getting off the beaten path, finding some hidden island, or living with some guy in a yurt in Mongolia don’t make someone a better traveler than anyone else. It just means your itinerary and experience were different.

I’ve been riled up about this for quite some time and decided to make a video about this subject. Here’s how I really feel and what I think you should do when you meet a pretentious, judgmental traveler:

At the end of the day, travel is not a competition. It’s not a contest. Yes, it’s awesome to travel to far-flung destinations and get off the beaten path. But that doesn’t mean you’re a “better traveler” than someone else. You’re just a different traveler.

We all travel our own way because travel is a personal experience.

I travel the way I want and go to the place I want to see. I don’t have anything to prove; I’m just traveling the way I want to. It’s my life, after all!

As I’ve learned after ten years of traveling the world , there are always going to be people out there who try to get you down. Just ignore them. They just want to belittle your experience to make themselves feel better.

Don’t waste your time on them. There are tons of other awesome travelers you can chat with instead!

So, go where you want.

Do what you want.

See what you want .

Eat where you want.

Maybe I’ll disagree, maybe I’ll try to get you to do something else, but, as Sheryl Crow said, if it makes you happy, it can’t be that bad — and at the end of the day, I’m just happy you left the house. That’s all I care about.

The next time someone starts harping on your travel choices or giving you grief, turn the conversation around on them. Tell them part of being a traveler is being open-minded and if they can’t respect your choice, the conversation is over. Call them out on their crap.

And then walk away.

It’s your trip. Don’t let people ruin it.  

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Why I Hate Traveling (And Why You Might Too)

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Traveling is a popular pastime for many people, but for some of us, it can be a downright nightmare. Whether you’re afraid of flying, don’t like dealing with unfamiliar cultures, or simply can’t stand being away from home, there are a number of reasons why you might hate traveling.

In this article, we’ll explore some of the most common reasons why people hate traveling, and we’ll offer some tips for making your next trip more enjoyable. So if you’re one of the many people who dread the thought of traveling, read on for some helpful advice!

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Traveling can be a great way to see new places, meet new people, and learn about different cultures. However, it can also be a stressful and expensive experience. There are a number of reasons why people might hate traveling, including the cost, the time commitment, and the hassle of dealing with airports and other travel inconveniences.

In this article, we will explore some of the reasons why people hate traveling and offer tips for making the experience more enjoyable.

The high cost of airfare, hotels, and other travel expenses can be a major deterrent for people who are on a budget. Traveling can also be expensive for families, who may need to pay for multiple plane tickets, hotel rooms, and meals. The cost of travel can also add up quickly if you’re planning on visiting multiple destinations.

Traveling can be time-consuming, especially if you’re going to a far-off destination. You need to factor in the time it takes to get to the airport, check in for your flight, go through security, and board the plane. Once you arrive at your destination, you’ll need to factor in the time it takes to get to your hotel, unpack, and get settled.

Dealing with airports and other travel inconveniences can be a hassle. You may have to wait in long lines, deal with lost luggage, or get caught in traffic. Even if you’re traveling for pleasure, the hassle of getting from one place to another can quickly take the fun out of the experience.

Jet lag can be a major problem for people who travel long distances. Jet lag occurs when your body’s natural sleep-wake cycle is disrupted by travel across time zones. This can lead to fatigue, irritability, and difficulty concentrating.

5. Culture shock

Traveling to a new country or culture can be a major adjustment. You may experience culture shock, which is a feeling of disorientation and anxiety that can occur when you’re exposed to unfamiliar customs, values, and beliefs. Culture shock can make it difficult to enjoy your trip and make the most of your experience.

6. Homesickness

Being away from home for an extended period of time can lead to homesickness, which is a feeling of longing for one’s home and familiar surroundings. Homesickness can make it difficult to enjoy your trip and make the most of your experience.

7. Safety concerns

Traveling can be dangerous, especially if you’re visiting a country that is unfamiliar to you. You may be at risk of being robbed, assaulted, or even killed. Even if you’re taking precautions, there’s always the chance that something could go wrong.

There are a number of reasons why people might hate traveling. These reasons include the cost, the time commitment, the hassle, jet lag, culture shock, homesickness, and safety concerns. However, it’s important to remember that traveling can also be a rewarding experience. It can be a great way to see new places, meet new people, and learn about different cultures. If you’re considering traveling, it’s important to weigh the pros and cons carefully and make sure that you’re prepared for the challenges that you may face.

Tips for Making Traveling More Enjoyable

If you’re dreading a upcoming trip, there are a few things you can do to make the experience more enjoyable.

  • Budget carefully. One of the best ways to reduce stress about travel is to budget carefully. This will help you avoid surprises and make sure that you can afford the trip.
  • Start planning early. The more time you have to plan your trip, the better. This will give you time to research your destination, book your flights and accommodations, and get your paperwork in order.
  • Pack light. The less you have to carry, the easier your trip will be. Pack only the essentials and leave the rest at home.
  • Be flexible. Things don’t always go according to plan when you’re traveling. Be prepared to adjust your plans if necessary and don’t let setbacks ruin your trip.
  • Take breaks. It’s important to take breaks from sightseeing and exploring to relax and recharge. This will help you avoid burnout and make the most of your trip.
  • Stay healthy. Eating healthy and getting enough sleep will help you stay healthy and happy on your trip.
  • Stay safe. Be aware of your surroundings and take precautions to stay safe. This includes being aware of your personal belongings, avoiding dangerous areas, and being careful when traveling at night.

By following these tips, you can make your next trip more enjoyable and less stressful.

3. Unpredictability

Traveling can be unpredictable, and there’s always the chance that something will go wrong. Your flight could be delayed or canceled, your luggage could get lost, or you could get sick while you’re away. The unpredictability of travel can be stressful and anxiety-provoking for some people.

Here are some examples of how unpredictability can make travel difficult:

  • Your flight is delayed or canceled. This can be a major inconvenience, especially if you’re on a tight schedule. You may have to spend hours in the airport, waiting for your flight to be rescheduled or canceled. You may also have to find a new way to get to your destination, which can be expensive and time-consuming.
  • Your luggage is lost. This can be a major headache, especially if you’re traveling with important documents or medications. You may have to spend hours trying to track down your luggage, and you may not be able to get it back until you return home.
  • You get sick while you’re away. This can be a major setback, especially if you’re in a foreign country and don’t have access to your regular healthcare provider. You may have to spend time in the hospital or doctor’s office, and you may have to cancel your plans for the rest of your trip.

For some people, the unpredictability of travel is enough to make them avoid it altogether. If you’re one of those people, it’s important to be aware of the risks and to plan accordingly. You can minimize the chances of something going wrong by doing your research, booking reliable transportation, and taking precautions to stay healthy.

Jet lag is a major problem for people who travel long distances. It can cause fatigue, difficulty sleeping, and irritability. Jet lag can also make it difficult to adjust to a new time zone, which can disrupt your sleep schedule and make it difficult to function normally.

Here are some tips for dealing with jet lag:

  • Try to adjust your sleep schedule gradually. If you’re flying east, start going to bed and waking up an hour earlier each day for a few days before your trip. If you’re flying west, start going to bed and waking up an hour later each day for a few days before your trip.
  • Stay hydrated. Drinking plenty of water can help to reduce jet lag symptoms.
  • Get some sunlight. Exposure to sunlight can help to reset your circadian rhythm.
  • Avoid caffeine and alcohol. Caffeine and alcohol can make jet lag worse.
  • Take a nap if you need to. A short nap can help to improve your energy levels and make it easier to adjust to a new time zone.

Jet lag can be a difficult problem to deal with, but there are a number of things you can do to make it more manageable. By following these tips, you can help to reduce your jet lag symptoms and make your trip more enjoyable.

Travel can be expensive, especially if you’re going to a far-off destination. You’ll need to factor in the cost of airfare, transportation, lodging, food, and activities. If you’re traveling with a group, the cost can quickly add up.

Here are some tips for saving money on travel:

  • Book your flights and accommodations in advance. This will help you to get the best prices.
  • Consider traveling during the off-season. This can be a great way to save money on airfare and lodging.
  • Stay in hostels or guesthouses. This is a great way to save money on accommodations.
  • Cook your own meals. This can be a great way to save money on food.
  • Do your research and find free or low-cost activities. This is a great way to save money on entertainment.

By following these tips, you can save money on your next trip and still have a great time.

Crowds can be a major downside of travel, especially if you’re visiting a popular tourist destination. Crowds can make it difficult to get around, find a place to stay, and enjoy the sights.

Here are some tips for dealing with crowds:

  • Visit popular attractions during off-peak times. This will help you to avoid the crowds.
  • Stay away from major tourist destinations. This will give you a chance to experience a more authentic local culture.
  • Plan your trip carefully. This will help you to avoid getting caught in traffic or long lines.

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Q: Why do I hate traveling? A: There are many reasons why people might hate traveling. Some common reasons include:

  • Fear of flying: This is one of the most common reasons for travel anxiety. It can be caused by a fear of heights, a fear of enclosed spaces, or a fear of crashing.
  • Jet lag: Jet lag can cause fatigue, irritability, and difficulty concentrating. It can also make it difficult to sleep at night and wake up in the morning.
  • Culture shock: When you travel to a new place, you may experience culture shock. This can be caused by the unfamiliar language, customs, and food. It can also be difficult to adjust to the different time zone and climate.
  • Homesickness: When you’re away from home for a long time, you may start to miss your family, friends, and familiar surroundings. This can lead to feelings of loneliness, sadness, and anxiety.
  • Budget constraints: Traveling can be expensive, especially if you’re going to a foreign country. This can make it difficult to afford to do all the things you want to do.

Q: What can I do to overcome my travel anxiety? A: There are a number of things you can do to overcome your travel anxiety. Some common strategies include:

  • Educate yourself: Learn more about the destination you’re visiting. This will help you to feel more prepared and in control.
  • Practice relaxation techniques: There are a number of relaxation techniques that can help to reduce anxiety, such as deep breathing, yoga, and meditation.
  • Start small: If you’re afraid of flying, start by taking a short flight to a nearby destination. As you get more comfortable with flying, you can gradually increase the length of your flights.
  • Travel with a friend or family member: Having someone to support you can make traveling less stressful.
  • See a therapist: If your travel anxiety is severe, you may want to see a therapist. A therapist can help you to identify the root of your anxiety and develop coping mechanisms.

Q: How can I prevent jet lag? A: There are a number of things you can do to prevent jet lag. Some common strategies include:

  • Adjust your sleep schedule gradually: In the days leading up to your trip, start going to bed and waking up earlier each day. This will help your body to adjust to the new time zone.
  • Stay hydrated: Drink plenty of fluids to stay hydrated, especially on long flights.
  • Get some exercise: Exercise can help to improve your circulation and reduce jet lag symptoms.
  • Eat a healthy diet: Eating a healthy diet can help to boost your immune system and reduce jet lag symptoms.
  • Avoid alcohol and caffeine: Alcohol and caffeine can worsen jet lag symptoms.

Q: How can I deal with culture shock? A: There are a number of things you can do to deal with culture shock. Some common strategies include:

  • Be open-minded: Try to be open-minded about new experiences and different cultures.
  • Learn about the local culture: Learn about the local customs, traditions, and values. This will help you to understand the people you’re interacting with.
  • Be patient: It takes time to adjust to a new culture. Be patient with yourself and others.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help: If you’re struggling to adjust, don’t be afraid to ask for help from locals or other travelers.

Q: How can I deal with homesickness? A: There are a number of things you can do to deal with homesickness. Some common strategies include:

  • Stay connected with your family and friends back home: Talk to them on the phone, Skype, or send them emails or letters.
  • Find ways to connect with people in your new location: Join a club or group, volunteer your time, or take a class. This will help you to meet new people and make friends.
  • Create a new routine: Find things to do in your new location that you enjoy. This will help you to feel more settled and at home.
  • Remember that homesickness is temporary: It’s normal to feel homesick when you’re away from home for a long time. Remember that you’ll be back home eventually.

Q: How can I travel on a budget? A: There are a number of ways to travel on a budget. Some common strategies include:

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there are many reasons why people might hate traveling. Some of the most common reasons include: the hassle of packing and unpacking, the stress of being in unfamiliar places, the discomfort of being in close quarters with strangers, and the fear of getting lost or having something go wrong. However, it is important to remember that traveling can also be a positive experience. It can be a great way to learn about new cultures, meet new people, and have new experiences. If you are someone who hates traveling, it is important to weigh the pros and cons carefully before deciding whether or not to take a trip.

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The airport is an unruly place. It’s opposite world. People who otherwise rarely move are seen sprinting to Cinnabon. High fashion is Birkenstocks and yoga pants. Happy hour starts at 7:00 am. Stepping over sleeping adults in fetal positions is expected. And all purchases are made within a 400% inflationary market.

The Boarding Process: Humanity Has Left the Building

In few other affairs is your life status so publicly displayed than during the airline boarding process. This is by design. Airlines publicly grade us by airport megaphone. It’s a grandstand to reward or humble customers based on how much money those individuals have we spend with them. The airline credo? “If you want to travel humanely, you’re going to pay.”

All airlines do the same thing: They move people from one place to another via the troposphere. The way in which they begin their process, however, can greatly vary, with the differences most evident during onboarding.

As soon as the gate attendant blows into a hot mic, people leap to their feet into pole position, blocking all pathways to the jetway ready to blitz the ticket scanner. There are notable reasons we act like stressed Billy goats during the boarding process, including the following:

  • Mob Mentality. A study found that as few as five people can influence a crowd of 100 to follow suit. 1 At the gate we leave our common sense to follow these Pied Pipers to a closed, retractable belt barrier 12 feet away, where we wait for the next gate announcement.
  • Competition . We want to be the first on and the first off the plane. It's why people jockey for the airplane aisle as soon as the seatbelt sign dings off. God forbid if a senior citizen or toddler tries to disembark first. It often becomes every passenger for him/herself, as if airports and planes are vacuums of courtesies.

Impatience . People crowd the gate under the illusion that it will get them to their destination faster. A superior use of time would be to find nearby space and do some birthing squats and jumping jacks to avoid the onset of DVT.

Baggage space . Planes almost always have enough overhead bin space for every passenger. In fact, newer planes have increased bin space. 2 Yet people will still drop their bags on unsuspecting heads.

California-based clinical psychologist Tom McDonagh says, “There has been a measurable uptick in clients who divulge anxiety about travel. Oftentimes clients will express worrisome thoughts about what could go wrong on their flight." These types of cognitive distortions are "future tripping" thoughts. "Get into the habit of seeing anxious thoughts as a symptom, and not reality, to help alleviate your stress," adds McDonagh.

Why Can’t the Airlines Lose My Emotional Baggage?

The airlines employ the art of anxiety seed-planting so you’ll pay a little more to check your bags or opt for earlier boarding. In their defense, airline margins are small and they depend on such fees to remain profitable. In 2021, airlines in the U.S. made an estimated $4.3 billion in baggage fees alone. The scariest thing about flying today are those fees. Which begs the question: "Is that a bag you’re checking, or a griefcase?"

To maximize profits, airlines create the illusion of grossly limited bin space, while continuing to splice boarding groups into ever-thinner stratifications. Consider the many tiers of the boarding processes to understand the psychological game you’ve entered. United boards in six groups, American has nine, and Delta has 10. You board according to your value to the airline.

I ride “basic economy” — the airborne proletariat class. We roll onto the jet bridge like the end credits of a sad movie. Airline personnel avoid making eye contact with us, knowing we barely chipped in for gas. Our shame is palpable. In the future, airlines could operate under any array of boarding and seating procedures, such as including bleachers or removing the seats and tethering each of us to a standing pole. But rest easy, Marco Polo, there are strategies to quell your travel angst.

10 Tactics to Less Stressful, if Not Stress-Free Travel

  • Counter the murmuring lies of anxiety . "Some people are struggling intensely with 'contamination anxiety.' They're worried about catching Covid on a plane," McDonagh says. "We try to help these clients by discussing possibility versus probability. When it comes to fear , we often overassume but just because something is possible, does not mean it's probable."
  • Practice makes progress . Build up your safe-risk tolerance prior to travel day to develop resiliency for the unfamiliar. Think overnight or weekend daytrip, not Burning Man. The goal is to not make your upcoming trip the first big, new experience since Covid and Zoom.
  • Bring a “bug-out” bag . Include all the travel-soothing accoutrements you need for your mental and physical well-being. These might include books, electronics, snacks, medications, that silly neck pillow, and the contact information of those in your support circle.
  • Consider avoiding caffeine and alcohol . Both can leave you feeling dehydrated in a desiccating fuselage. Moreover, they can both increase anxiety. Anxiety kicks in with caffeine, booze, and no control over the window shade.

Normalize feeling abnormal . Remind yourself that it is 100% normal to have worries or stress related to travel. While this skill might seem overly simplistic, it’s incredibly powerful. Telling yourself, “It makes sense that I feel this way given the situation,” is often the reassurance your brain needs. Normalize and nama-stay who you are.

Name it to tame it . Labeling emotions is a proven way to reduce their intensity. This process uses your prefrontal cortex, which brings your more reasonable, thoughtful self back online. It can downregulate the anxiety center of the brain that contributes to stress. Do this by asking yourself, “At this moment, how am I feeling given this situation?” Talking to yourself is a sign of higher intelligence — especially when referring to yourself in the third person. 3 But use a sock puppet if you want to make a statement.

Breathing . An effective way to flip from fight-or-flight response to the rest-and-digest state is by doing the physiological sigh. 4 Take a short inhale through your nose, pause for a moment, and then inhale through your nose again. Then slowly exhale through your mouth. It’s a process our bodies do naturally when soothing from an emotional experience. Imagine a young child or politician at the end of a crying fit and you can see the double intake that naturally happens. Take 5-10 physiological sighs as needed.

Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR) . Muscle tension contributes to stress. To reduce muscle tension, intentionally constrict your muscles for 30-60 seconds. This constriction causes the muscle to be less tense after the constriction period. Try to focus on one muscle group at a time while seated, such as your feet/lower legs and work your way up the body. Flying Frankie says relax.

Acceptance . Acceptance does not mean approval. Simply acknowledge things as they are in the moment. Boarding delays, limited leg space, and lavatory lines will likely be part of the experience. Acceptance removes unnecessary suffering. Acceptance challenge accepted!

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Ramirez J. M. (2014). The integrative role of the sigh in psychology, physiology, pathology, and neurobiology. Progress in brain research, 209, 91–129.

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How To Cope If You Love To Travel But Hate Traveling

I not only love to travel, I love the act of physically traveling. Whether flying, driving, or rolling along the rails, I truly enjoy the journey. Although I do genuinely appreciate the process, I’ve certainly had my fair share of unpleasant experiences – from broken seats forcing me to sit unnaturally upright for hours to sharing a row with couples getting a little too cozy – that have made me yearn for the trip to end immediately.

And while for the most part I like the traveling part of travel, I’ve encountered far more people who loathe getting from point A to point B. With that in mind, I’ve spent some time reflecting on how to make traveling more enjoyable. Here are my top recommendations for making your trips better if you love to travel but hate traveling.

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Pick the best seat for you.

If you have the option of selecting a seating in advance, do your research so that you make an educated choice. For air travel the considerations go a lot further than window or aisle – front or back, emergency exit, close to a bathroom or service station, etc – so check out Seat Guru for details and reviews of specific seats on your route. If traveling by train you may be able to choose or reserve a seat in advance so take some time to determine what you prefer – standard seat versus compartment, what direction to face, window versus aisle, and so forth. If you can’t reserve your particular place in advance, showing up a bit early so that you’re one of the first on board no matter what your travel method will increase your likelihood of snagging a coveted seat.

Don’t chose the cheapest option just because it’s the cheapest.

Unless you’re on a restrictive budget, don’t eliminate alternatives simply because they’re more expensive – there might be more convenient, more efficient, and more comfortable options for only a marginally higher price for example taking a ferry across versus driving around. There are instances when the cheapest option is the most efficient, such as flying long distances within Europe rather than taking the train, but you might give something up that you value – like the scenery and experience of taking the train through many smaller towns. Research all of your options before deciding on a method of travel and keep in mind what your preferences and priorities are within the constraints of your budget.

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Bring what you need to get to your ‘Happy Place’.

Think about what makes you relaxed and content when you’re not traveling and try to incorporate these while on your way. Perhaps it’s a notebook or journal, your comfiest sweatpants, or a playlist that instills calmness – whatever it is, think about what would take your travel experience to the next level and attempt to replicate. Make sure whatever makes you happy is accessible as well – it’s difficult to get the benefit from these if they’re in the cargo of the plane, for instance.

Be prepared with essentials.

Before heading off, I always fill up my iPhone with games and music that’s accessible offline as well as a few movies on my iPad to make the time pass quickly and enjoyably. Do not forget your headphones – everyone’s had the experience where a fellow passenger is talking loudly and incessantly about some infuriating topic – popping in your headphones and turning on a great song can instantly dissipate your annoyance and improve your mood. I also ensure that I have a good book on hand so that I can have another option, and I always find reading the best activity on a long or overnight journey where you want to doze off. Stock up on plenty of water and snacks as well – even if you think these will be available, it’s always best to be over-prepared as you never know if there will be issues or delays.

Keep your medicine cabinet nearby.

There’s nothing worse than a sudden onset of less than pleasant feelings while en route and not having anything at hand to alleviate your symptoms. On my travels I bring along every type of over-the-counter medication that I might need, including ibuprofen, anti-nausea pills, Imodium, allergy medicines, sinus relief, and lozenges for a sore throat. Keep these close as you never know when you’re going to need them.

Dress for comfort.

Being on a long haul journey and feeling uncomfortable with what you’re wearing is the absolute worst. You don’t want to have to keep fiddling with and adjusting what you’ve got on as you’re never going to fully relax and enjoy the ride. Go for your tried-and-true favourites – never wear something for the first time on a long trip – and focus on breathable, non-irritating fabrics, looser fitting clothing, and layers so that you can add and remove to feel most comfortable. I am usually on the colder side so I always bring along a large scarf to drape over myself if necessary.

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Pack light if possible.

When I made the transition to carry-on only travel a few years ago, I quickly noticed a positive change in my overall mood when traveling. No more was I hauling around my body weight in luggage, arriving at the train platform or bus terminal sore, exhausted, and drenched in sweat. With a small bag, it’s also far easier to find a spot to stow it, often close by so you can keep tabs on it – a great thing if you need something mid-journey or if there’s any risk of theft. And if you’re flying, getting off and not having to wait for bags is the ultimate feeling as you can get going immediately.

Have some preventative measures if you’re nervous.

This one is most applicable for flying, as it’s a travel method that makes many people uneasy. While I personally do not mind being up in the air – unless there’s intense turbulence – I’ve traveled with many friends that are on the nervousness spectrum from take off (or even well before in anticipation) until touch down. While there are many methods to calm your nerves and everyone’s different, think about what you need to make you comfortable whether it’s a meditation app on your phone, your favourite movie, or a well timed sleeping pill so you can nod off for the entire flight.

Know where you’re going when you arrive.

Even though I enjoy traveling, I will often become somewhat uneasy as the journey begins to come to and end when arriving in a new destination. I get nervous of what will come after I disembark – where is my accommodation? How do I get to the metro? How do I buy a ticket for the bus? Most of the time though, I’ve already tracked down the answers to these questions in advance so I’ll be well prepared when I arrive. So while I do feel momentarily concerned, I immediately relax once I remember that I have all of this sorted out already.

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Pay attention.

On trains or buses with multiple stops, it can be easy to miss your destination entirely, especially if it’s a long trip and you’re in a state of full relaxation from following the tips above. It’s going to be hard to doze off if you’re constantly concerned that you’re going to miss your stop. One trick that I’ve used to great effect on trains and buses when I’ve wanted to get some sleep is to set an alarm on my phone – quiet and/or vibrating so that it doesn’t disturb your fellow passengers – to go off a bit before you’re scheduled to arrive. Then you can have confidence that you’re not going to miss your destination.

Get into the travel mindset.

Just like an athlete getting psyched before a big match, put on your travel game face and get into the zone. Especially for longer trips, get mentally prepared for what’s ahead by prepping everything you need, getting up early the day of so that you’re in a sleepy state, and avoiding copious amounts of caffeine or alcohol so that you’re at your most mellow.

No matter how bad the journey, focus on how great it will be to arrive at your destination.

Whether you’re just venturing out, heading off to a new spot, or making your way home, there’s something exciting about what will come once you arrive. If you’re having a truly shit journey, keep thinking about all of the positive elements that are coming your way and remind yourself that the end justifies the mean.

That’s a wrap on my tips if you love to travel but hate traveling. Got any of your own?

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Wonderful advice! I used to pick the cheapest transportation option, but often it left me miserable, so now I really look at the comfort level and the amount of time it takes compared with the price. Plus my husband hates to fly, so if there’s a reasonable train or bus option, we’ll do that instead even if it’s more expensive. And yes, dress comfortably! Especially on long haul flights or really long buses, I always wear comfy pants (basically gym pants) instead of jeans because it makes the whole experience that much more tolerable.

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I would really say that never go for cheap travel choices, They will actually kill your will to travel, If you already hate traveling and Book a holiday or tour in cheap rates you will end up in a coach or a hotel which might make you hate traveling even more. I would advise consulting with the agent and finding the best possible approach.

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I Hate to Travel – The Reluctant Traveller

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This post has been written by Ankur Bhatia (aka The Filmy Fool ). Equal parts crazy & passionate, h e  loves to write about films & entertainment, likes to read fantasy fiction and is a fan of Brandon Sanderson's Cosmere. He relaxes by listening to classic rock and is an extremely Reluctant Traveller.

It may be hard to believe but it’s true, I am an extremely reluctant traveller and I plan to share some of my travel ordeals under the  Reluctant Traveller series  starting with this post.

Travel for me is not relaxation or meditation, rather it is the exact opposite. Be it travel for work or vacation, it is accompanied by major stress and anxiety. I guess there are 2  major reasons for this; 1) The intense planning before the travel (being on your toes even during the travel to make sure all goes according to plan) and 2) I simply am not comfortable leaving my space (my bed, my pillows, my washroom etc.) and my routine. There are other reasons as well which I will talk about a little later. I understand that the second reason is a bit on the side of OCD and I try to overlook it as much as possible. However, the planning required for a trip gives me panic attacks.

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"A friend once told me that planning is the most fun part of the vacation, at times even better than the vacation itself. I honestly didn't know how to respond to that."

Most vacations that I have been to have been planned by my wife and I know she has not had a lot of fun doing it. After planning one too many, she put her hands up. So I had no choice but to dive into the dark abyss that is vacation planning .

I had never really planned a trip before...ok to be honest I did plan a trip to Goa with my family and it bombed (details in another post). Honestly, I almost felt like Zayed Khan from ‘Main Hoon Na’ who steps into the library for the first time and there are temple bells ringing etc. Seriously, In films, they never show the ugly parts of a vacation. I mean how the hell did Hrithik Roshan plan his dare in Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara when he was so busy? I keep hoping that my vacation plans don’t end up like the plans of Kirsten Wiig from Bridesmaid. Anyway, the planning starts and the next thing I know I have lost one month of my life.

And this is the story with every vacation because there are so many variables and the added pressure of missing out on something fantastic. You know how you always find people who start playing Oh My God! And they have only 1 rule, they can never lose. It goes like this, "Hey you went to this country right? Did you see THAT?", "Yes I did, it was so...” (Abruptly stopped) "Oh but did you see THAT?", "Yeah I did but honestly...” (Cut, we are moving on) "Oh the best was THAT, did you go THERE?" "No!", "OH MY GOD, how could you miss THAT, I can't believe you went all the way and did not see THAT".

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"I am happy to see the waves go by with a book in my hand and jazz/classic rock playing in the background. "

So you obviously ignore such people but then there is the dreadful Internet. Filled with choices that last for pages and pages. From "all-inclusive packaged tours" to "the terrain less travelled" and from "we will do everything for you and just take your life savings" to "Do everything on your own, we will just take a small amount for....umm...you know...motivating you to go on this trip" (else you would have stayed home, watched Netflix, ordered food and relaxed).

I understand that one should not get bogged by social pressure and do what they want, within the budget they can afford. Well, I don't know what kind of vacation I want, or what kind of a traveler I am. Do I want to visit the beaten down, clichéd tourist spots? Or do I want to take the path less traveled and explore the unexplored, blah blah...discovering myself ...blah blah....you get the idea. I honestly don't know. Sometimes I want everything done for me and sometimes I don't want to do anything.

Another crazy variable is traveling with another person. Wife, friend, family no matter who you are planning to travel with, each one brings their own dynamics, do's and don'ts, preferences, and a bucket list.

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"What do you call a vacation that keeps everyone happy? A Dream! "

With so much to think of and so many things to balance, who has the wherewithal to have fun? Not me. I know people who start planning their next vacation as soon as they get back from one. I feel like every time I plan a vacation, I am in need of 2 vacations. One, where I plan everything and somehow manage to hold it together during the entire thing. And two, a follow-up vacation, which helps me get over the craziness of the first one. 

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i too can be a reluctant traveler, although I have different things that make me reluctant. I LOVE the planning part, so that’s never it, but I have a pretty decent fear of flying that always stresses me out, so I can relate!

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As I am a travel lover, I cannot relate to Ankur so much. As for travel planning, he can take planned customized tours to keep away that homework. Even these services take care of visa services too. But many people love their comforts of home and have the different perspective. Loved to read about theories of reluctant traveller.

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Medha Verma

I find it hard to believe that someone can hate the actual travel part. The planning and organising – sure. But being in a new country, exploring something new – that’s my favourite part of travel!

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I’m the opposite— I find it hard to believe anyone can find travel enjoyable. Stumbling around strange places, trying not to get hit by cars, every meal an agonizing search and negotiation, and no sleep. All that to see a building or a mountain. No thanks!

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I get so anxious purchasing my airfare! I research everything there is to do for weeks before committing to my flight times and no matter how much I research or how many days I add for padding, I’m always short on time. So frustrating!

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Good to see a different point of view although I don’t relate to it. I think for me the most stressful thing used to be going to office every day and waiting for the day to end. he he… which is why I left that life behind. But everyone has different preferences…

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An interesting perspective. I can relate to aspects of it. I hate the planning, the anxiety and unknown factors around it, and the act of going from point A to point B, but once I arrive, all that goes out the door and I can relax. I use to plan every detail of my trips (which is why I probably hate the planning process!), but now I only just have rough plans and figure it out as I go. This has gone a long way in making it more enjoyable!

I personally love the planning part. But over a period of time, I’ve learned to keep some flexibility in the plan 🙂

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If you hate to travel, why do it? If it’s stressful and not enjoyable, it seems to me the better thing to do would be just to stay home.

I used to read this one blog where the couple really just seemed to hate travel. They complained about everything in every place. I really could never understand why they even bothered to go when they were clearly going to be miserable.

Well, I guess sometimes when you’re a couple, one does it because the other person really likes to!

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Shruti Prabhu

I like to mix it up. A bit or rest and a bit of adventures. I love planning vacations but it is the visa process that causes anxiety. Both me and my husband like to roughly plan the outline and then just play it by ear. We love the flexibility rather than sticking to a rigid itinerary.

I find the visa thing a big hassle too!

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Alexander Popkov

Well, I can hardly call my trips rest.. carrying backpack and going to mountains doesn’t sound like… But I stil love it. I have enough of comfortable chairs in the office, I look for freedom.

Fair enough 🙂

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We used to plan a lot. Now, we just book our 16 weeks of timeshare and go to the places they tell us to when we get there!

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Such an honest post and happy he talked about how he really feels about planning trips and the actual trips but It’s funny that some people can really immerse themselves into planning (some enjoy the planning more than the trip) and there are others like Ankur who absolutely hate planning. I guess from the things I’ve learned over the years planning isn’t really a stressful procedure for me, I have my go-to sites to check the basics out and get ideas of costs and a rough idea of what to see and do.

I agree, while some people think it’s stressful, others like me enjoy it almost as much as the actual trip 🙂

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I am among those who enjoy planning a lot! I truly love researching about destinations, studying the local history and learning about the culture.

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I really enjoy planning for trips – researching where to stay, places to visit and where to eat. However, I do understand that there is so much information out there you feel you don’t want to miss out on any sights. We like to take out time travelling and if you don’t have time to fit everything in, just do it next time when you return. I do all the planning and researching … I think my husband finds it stressful though so he can relate to Ankur!

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I understand your point of view on travel (I am the opposite). For you, that is why cruise ships are great and organized travel groups – they do everything for you. Not my choice, but I have lots of friends who prefer to let the planning and worry to someone else.

I started my blog because I do such a great job at planning and people love to take my advice on travel. I also share how to be cost efficient. We visit both well-traveled and less traveled areas.

I am one of those who starts thinking about the next place as soon as I get home – and why not if it allows us to be in the moment, making the most of it while traveling. I wish you great travel experiences!

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Kavita Favelle

This is definitely an interesting perspective for me, as I’m the opposite of your poster Ankur. I get immense pleasure from researching and planning a trip, it’s not something I find at all stressful! I’m also very lucky that my husband is my ideal, and totally compatible travel partner.

It’s the same with me, I love planning and research, it’s kind of the most important part because it builds up anticipation 😉 I found Ankur’s perspective quite interesting as well, mainly because it’s the complete opposite of mine!

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Love that Ankur was so honest about this! Not everyone loves planning, and not everyone would love to leave their routines.

I used to LOVE planning so much, but lately, I’m like eh – maybe because I was feeling stress with graduate school, work and internship that it was just simply overwhelming for me to even make a plan. Now, I’m getting back into it since I’m done with grad school, work, and internship. Anyways, this post is really enjoyable and made me smile 🙂 Pretty much thought of myself and my boyfriend, even with my friend who I travel sometimes with.

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Thanks for this very honest blog post. I totally understand the stress that comes with travel planning. My husband and I usually share the planning. And then the blame when something doesn’t quite work out as planned. We have tried tour vacations where someone else does all the planning. But find we usually have more fun when we plan it ourself.

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I definitely relate to this, the planning can definitely be very stressful sometimes. It’s always worth it though – I’ve never regretted going somewhere!

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Loved reading the post. We travel to escape from our mundane corporate life…. no self-discovery or exploring the less trodden path for us too 😉 But, we love travel planning and all the excitement that comes with travel.

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Haha I can relate to this to some degree, but you still go? Have you ever been on package holidays where you allowed someone else to do all the planning? I totally know what you mean by loads of these points, but I am SUCH a travel addict I can’t pretend I’m not that person who is already planning their next holiday before they are back from their last. It drives my husband mad!

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Hahaha, My husband could totally relate to your dilemma. While I love travelling and planning our vacations, he just gives up the minute we decide on vacation. But yes, the option on things to do in a place boggles me most of the time, and the OMGs as well hahah.

I know, right. For some people, it becomes all about checking the boxes and no matter how amazing an adventure you’ve embarked upon, as long as you’ve not done the ‘key’ things, your vacation just wasn’t complete, according to them 🙂

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Haha this is so funny! OMG-person, I have meet many during my trips! It doesnt matter if you tell them that you have seen a pink elephant flying and they could still go “What! You havent been there??”…

I totally respect Ankur! And my husband is the same because this way I have all the control and the power to decide where to go and what to see. He just comes along and be the greatest travel partner ever!

I think it’s perfect when the two partners are complete opposites – one loves to plan and the other doesn’t. It gives the planner total freedom and the other peace of mind to just sit back and enjoy the vacation which has been perfectly planned already 😉

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Oh god this is so sad. I cannot imagine feeling this way about travelling as I love the planning and the actual trip. I know people who hate the planning though. Maybe one way to overcome this is to not plan and just turn up at the airport and book something on the spot

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My partner isn’t the best traveller, but loves it when we arrive. I actually like the planning stage; it’s where you get to see the best things to do and see in a new destination! Travel is definitely what you make of it; just be sure to come home with good memories than bad ones!

I guess some people just need everything to be laid out on a platter so that all they need to do is land up and enjoy the destination 😉

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I am so with you on planning! I never understood how people thought that was fun. Although I love travel and do it often, I always find the planning stage very stressful.

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Hahah! I am the complete OPPOSITE! I love to travel and the planning part is just as exciting as the actual experience. For the planning part creates the anticipation which is all part and parcel of the travel process. And I love to travel with my partner and daughter. Whilst I’m sure we are polar opposites, I can empathise. Maybe next time pay someone to do all the planning and you just get on the plane!

I hear you, Amy! I love the planning part of travel as well, almost as much as I love travelling 🙂 But I can understand my guest writer’s point of view, not everyone sees ‘planning’ as anticipation, for some, it can be quite stressful!

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richa tandon

Ankur this is so so relatable, ’cause I share the OCD syndrome ? with you… and to top it my travels include a teenager boy and a little princess, I can moan about the issues for hours …. but in the end I do like holidays ? So as long as everyone promises to be happy with what we get and not compare it to the internet DREAM HOLIDAYS… it can work out…?

A good read and a realistic view to travelling ?? looking forward o the next one !!!!

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It’s an interesting read. Looking forward to the complete series

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Ankur Bhatia

So relieved to know that there are others like me and not everyone is a travel enthusiast 🙂

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Dakota Wolf

I so appreciate reading your blog Ankur. While friends plan out of country travel with enthusiasm I feel so guilty for saying no thank you to their invitation to join them. The stress of planning minimal local jaunts is all I can handle. Home, books, pets…. I look forward to your future posts.

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Deepak Verma

Fantastic. Too good. Finally someone like me. A courageous confession indeed and very hilarious one to read. Looking forward to more.

I don’t think this is you at all! You love your excel sheets and print outs 😉

I refer to the packing/unpacking and the disturbance it causes in my smooth daily schedule. Waiting at airports for hours and flight delays make me feel I have lost control over my schedules.

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Ashwini Menon (@Ashwini_Menon)

Hi Ankur. I am grinning from ear to ear as I read this!! I could relate to everything you said. The anxiety behind the planning gets to me too. And so like I delegated all the planning to my husband. I am so bad that I dont even plan the weekend stuff. He checks out the movie listings and books for them too. While I kind of enjoy myself when I am at a nice resort, getting there is stress-filled. And of course, since I do none of the planning, if anything goes wrong, I blame my husband!! :(:( To add to it all, I often pack only the night before and we have also missed our flight once (didnt check the time on the ticket properly)!

Looking forward to your series fellow reluctant traveller…esp the Goa trip! 🙂

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I Hate Traveling Solo—And I’m Totally Okay With That

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A couple of years ago, when I was the executive editor of Condé Nast Traveler , I copped to loathing solo travel in the middle of a meeting with several other travel editors, most of them women. This was post Women’s March, pre #metoo, and the collective reaction could only be described as “stunned.”

I get it. After all, this was a time when we were exerting independence in every facet of our lives. Moving confidently through the world felt urgent. Necessary , even. So when I admitted I wasn’t a fan of traveling by myself despite being an independent 40-year-old woman, and a travel editor no less, it came off as if I was actively dodging empowerment. Or worse, that I didn't know how to be alone. That’s not my problem. Like most writers, I require pockets of time by myself and have no trouble filling hours alone. Organizing my closet and blowing through the entire Haim catalogue on Spotify is my high church.

But for me, traveling solo has never been empowering, much less restorative. If anything it feels like painful work—like therapy that’s not going well. When I’m in an unfamiliar place by myself for a stretch, I’m hilariously incapable of exuding worldly swagger. I’ll research my brains out and make plans to experience whatever city I am in—locking in the of-the-moment restaurant reservation, figuring out what museum to hit, where to get that afternoon macchiato in that burgeoning, cool-kids neighborhood—and then promptly second guess all of those plans, with nobody to talk me out of bailing on them, and retreat to my room early to polish off a few mini bottles from the hotel mini bar and binge-watch Netflix on my iPhone.

Once, when I was in London on assignment, I decided last minute to head to Somerset by train (which is saying a lot since cracking train travel has never been my strong suit). The plan was to stay one night at a pretty country-estate hotel surrounded by seemingly endless fields of tall grass and hulking majestic trees that looked more like hyperrealistic drawings. It was all painfully beautiful and it was a privilege to be there, but no matter what I did—drank a pint by myself in the bar, read a book on an overstuffed lawn chair, swam in the indoor/outdoor infinity pool—I couldn’t...settle. I kept thinking about what it would be like to come back here with my daughter and husband, and dedicated way too much headspace to what my dog was doing (sleeping on my side of the bed most likely, not thinking about me). I skipped dinner, holed up in my room, and stayed up far too late watching a bad movie before leaving early the next morning, not even giving the claw-foot soaking tub a whirl.

It hasn’t gone like that on every trip—sometimes I’ll go somewhere alone, muscle through, and come back feeling wrung out, in a good way, because I was able to take care of myself and all of my appendages, including my iPhone. Feeling capable is utterly satisfying. But I’ve also not taken assignments, like gorilla trekking in Rwanda , because the thought of preparing for and experiencing that kind of herculean adventure by my lonesome fills me with paralyzing, mood-killing dread. Whereas if I have someone to share the anticipation and fear with—and stoke my Gorilla-loving fires—well, go ahead and count me in.

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As the number of female solo travelers continues to rise (in 2018 British Airways found that more than 50 percent of the 9,000 women surveyed had taken a solo vacation, with 75 percent planning solo trips in the near future) it’s embarrassing to admit you’re a reluctant solo traveler in a time when other women seem to be ticking off their bucket list destinations on their own—and with a palpable fervor. But I don’t apologize anymore for it. What I realized is that I love to travel because it imprints you in a way that a million hot yoga classes, or juice cleanses, or work or whatever else we are organizing our lives around at the moment never can. And for me, to really sink into a place and come back changed, jolted even, I need someone to share it with. If that makes me less of a badass explorer, I can live with that.

In fact, I’ve given myself permission to never have to travel solo again if I don’t want to. Which is exactly why, when I landed a dream assignment to drive 1,200 miles around Portugal —in an Alfa Romeo, no less—I did what any respectable, independent woman would do. I called my mom.

My mom and I drank too much Port and held our breaths as we inched our way down medieval cobblestone streets in a very expensive rental, where we definitely left pastry crumbs behind. That’s a trip I’ll remember for the rest of my life. And isn’t that the whole point of going anywhere? To remember it not solely for the anxiety or loneliness you felt awash in, but for the connection you made to other humans. One that would have never happened had you not been some other place than home.

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The Middle of Somewhere: Why I Hate to Travel

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Ten years ago, disliking travel branded you under some dullard’s version of Megan’s Law. The admission hot-wired people’s nervous systems: eyes zoomed in and dollied out on you; delete buttons fired in whatever part of the brain controls dinner-party invitations; body language suddenly spoke fluent English: You hate travel? You hate travel? You hate travel ?

Yes and yes and yes but … times are changing. People seem more tolerant of the hunkered down. They’ve gained an empathy for inertia freaks. Some have even slouched toward the “staycation,” a handy detour around the shame of parochialism. Not long ago at a super-high-thread-count dinner party in Martha’s Vineyard (O.K., I went to Martha’s Vineyard—I’ll explain later), a woman said to me, “I still like travelling but sometimes it’s like marriage … not all it’s cracked up to be.” I half-jokingly, or three-eighths jokingly, said I didn’t know that either were cracked up to be much and … she smiled. No really, I’m pretty sure she smiled.

At first knee-jerk, reasons for a travel backlash are splashing everywhere: recession, 9/11, gas, brawny euros, scrawny dollars, malaria, aisle seat fees, security-gate shoe-removal. “ One wacko booby-traps his Nikes and we have to remove our shoes for eternity? It’s sick. ” Yes, getting there is half the agony. Being there is the other half.

Popular bothers aside, my travel problem is more internal: I just don’t like going anywhere. As an aspiring agoraphobic, I like being home. The sweet habit of home holds life’s potential. Preferring to be available to my own life, I’m pretty sure news about an optioned screenplay won’t reach me in Tuscany. It doesn’t reach me at home, either, but at least here, self-delusion makes some sense. Other people may like being in the middle of nowhere. Not me. And my atlas shows maybe four places in the world that aren’t in the middle of nowhere.

And yet, people continue to ask, what about daring adventure? Well, when wars break out, I do envy those action-junkie photojournalists snapping away through sniper fire then hurdling headlong into desperate combat romances, but those aren’t the adventures we’re discussing here. We’re on the level of an Antarctic eco-tour, which is just running away from oneself for two weeks of life on gelid hold. And anyway, as Eudora Welty said, “… all serious daring starts from within.” Granted, just because Eudora Welty said it doesn’t mean it’s true, but in this case, I really think she was on to something.

People then ask about the oxymoronic concept of a pleasure trip (and I’m not so sure of the oxy part). Here, the implications are twofold: Home lacks pleasure, a dreary scenario only exacerbated by resorts with better amenities than your own home; and that a change of scenery does a person good. In Normandy (O.K., I went to Normandy), I learned that the French refer to such travel as a way to “ change les idées ”—change your ideas. Granted, just because the French say it doesn’t mean it’s wrong, but in this case, I really think they’re wrong.

Case in point, a few years ago, yoga freaks everywhere seemed to be lugging their purple mats to India precisely to “change les idées.” I was asked along on several such trips but declined. India is no doubt fascinating and the people sound very nice over the phone but … thanks for asking and godspeed. As it turned out, the only changes in ideas I heard from returning travelers dealt with multiplying the recommended dosage of Imodium. The best idea was an advanced formula called Explodium.

On the upside, I learned enough about India to close my eyes and convince myself I went there and never needed to go back. One imagined trip was enough. Really, it’s staggering how much you can learn about the world by avoiding it. Without moving a muscle, I know St. Bart’s is “so restful,” Machu Picchu “so transcendent” and the Masai “so cheerful.” I don’t see why I have to confirm it all firsthand. You’ve rated the hotels, reviewed the meals, described the felonious cab drivers … why see the movie? Which exposes another dimly lit truth: The high point of any trip is when it’s over . People like travel but they love saying, “I just got back from Uruguay.” With open access to exotic locales, travel has become a seedy form of exhibitionism, more something to recount than experience. I know this because I’m as guilty as anyone.

A few years ago I went on what others referred to as “a vacation” to Vietnam. (O.K., I also went to Vietnam.) Back home, everyone got a dose of “I just got back from Vietnam.” They’d ask how I enjoyed the trip and I’d say, “Actually, I don’t know what all those Vietnam veterans were whining about…I had a great time.”

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Lazy People, Rejoice: Science Says It's Totally OK for You to Hate Traveling

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If you're the type of person who gets exhausted from looking at your friend's Instagram photos from Bali, boy, does science have good news for you: All that traveling your friends are doing is highly overrated.

According to a study from the University of Surrey and Lund University in Sweden, while people with "hypermobile" lifestyles might seem glamorous on social media, they're more likely to be at risk for developing such diseases as "jet lag, deep vein thrombosis, radiation exposure, stress, loneliness and distance from community and family networks" than people who don't travel extensively.

Suck it, globe-trotting Instagram couples ! Enjoy your jet lag and deep vein thrombosis. We'll be at home alone, eating Mexican food and brewing some farts in an IKEA  POÄNG chair .

The study : The authors of the study examined how frequent travel is typically depicted in TV and print advertising, as well as social media. They found that while people who travel often are perceived as having "higher status" than those who do not, frequent fliers are more at risk for developing various health conditions.

"The level of physiological, physical and societal stress that frequent travels places upon individuals has potentially serious and long-term negative effects that range from the breaking down of family relationships, to changes in our genes due to lack of sleep," the study's lead author, Scott Cohen, said in a press release . 

Cohen also stressed social networks like Instagram and Foursquare's roles in perpetuating the myth of the aspirational jet-setting lifestyle. "Social media encourages competition between travelers to 'check in' and share content from far-flung destinations," he wrote. "The reality is that most people who are required to engage in frequent travel suffer high levels of stress, loneliness and long-term health problems."

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How Instagram is driving us bonkers: The findings of the study are particularly relevant in light of  Instagram envy , which we know is sparked by seeing glamorous, expertly filtered photos of your friends' jaunts to India and Coachella and Paris and all the other places you would totally visit but air travel is so expensive and also you're expecting a furniture delivery and your second cousin just had a baby so you've got way too much on your plate right now.

While it might sound like a stretch to claim that Instagram is actively making you feel worse about your sedentary lifestyle, research says that's what seems to be happening. According to a 2013 Carnegie Mellon study , seeing your friends' photos on your social feeds correlates with feelings of loneliness, resentment, and even depression.

So the next time you happen to stumble across your friend's sun-kissed selfies from the azure shores of the Amalfi Coast, don't reflexively like the pic, as per usual. Instead, drop a passive-aggressive link to this study with the following warning, courtesy of Cohen: 

"Society needs to recognize that the jet-set lifestyle is not all it's made out to be. By striving to travel far, wide and frequently we are damaging the environment, ourselves and potentially our closest loved ones."

Hear that, frequent fliers? You're not just hurting yourselves, you're hurting us. Now go back to bed for a few days, order in pizza, bask in the scent of your own farts and think about what you did.

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How to be a better tourist and not annoy locals

Locals in cities around the world are getting fed up with tourists, and I don’t blame them.

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My husband and I love traveling, and now that he’s retired, we have plans to see so much more of this world.

We are heading to Cambodia and Vietnam next year, and in 2026, we are planning a trip to Europe with extended family.

Recent protests aimed at travelers have made me more aware of the good and bad impacts of tourism. You should be concerned too.

Thousands of Barcelona residents took to the streets recently to protest the financial effects of overtourism in their city. Armed with neon-colored water guns, they squirted visitors dining at outside restaurants.

Protesters carried signs that said “Tourists go home.”

Chief among their complaints — as with many disgruntled locals worldwide — is that extreme tourism has inflated the cost of living. Investors snatch up properties to rent to tourists, driving up housing costs. Other entrepreneurs also rush to cash in on travelers looking for lodging other than a standard hotel room.

Crowds are straining the infrastructure of major popular destinations in the United States and cities abroad, such as Amsterdam , Athens , Paris and Venice . UNESCO World Heritage sites are being overrun by people trying to tick off their bucket-list dream vacation.

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There is something I have also noticed as a tourist: In the name of frugality, some visitors grouse about prices and end up becoming traveling misers. They don’t tip when they should, they vandalize historical monuments , and they fail to consider the positive financial impact they could have on a local economy.

Even though I am frugal, I become overly generous when I travel. Here are five tips to avoid being an inconsiderate tourist.

Don’t travel with debt

I find that people who stretch themselves financially by going into debt to travel rationalize being stingy, such as not tipping appropriately, by pointing to the cost of their trip.

It’s understandable that they want to watch every penny if they know that when they return, they will face a credit card bill with a 20 percent-plus interest rate.

So, save and go. You are more likely to be a better, more generous traveler when you aren’t worried about the debt you will face when you return home.

Avoid the tourist traps

My husband and I like to find places far less traveled by the visiting masses. This serves two purposes. We get to relax without the crowds, and we support vendors, artists and restaurants that don’t see the same traffic as the tourist traps .

Trendy places that cater to tourists often have higher prices, so we can save money by finding less popular parts of a city or town.

Yes, tipping is not expected in many cities abroad, and that is a welcome practice for many Americans suffering from tipping fatigue back home.

However, you may meet a host of folks — guides, street musicians, luggage handlers or housekeepers — that you should tip, even if a gratuity is not expected.

Even when a tip is included, it’s nice to have cash on hand to show appreciation for people who go above and beyond in their service.

Before you go, ask questions about the local tipping culture so that you are prepared to support those working to serve you.

Don’t be that entitled tourist

Keep this in mind: Travel industry workers are not your servants.

You are a visitor and should respect the places you visit and the people you meet. You would think this advice goes without saying, yet social media postings and news reports tell a different story.

Is that selfie you want going to damage property or disturb the harmony of the place you visit?

Spending a lot of money on your trip doesn’t entitle you to act ugly. Don’t vex the locals with bad financial behavior.

Build generosity into your travel budget

If you are visiting a country where you know the cost of living is high, or its citizens are living below the poverty line, pack your generosity.

In addition to your vacation costs, consider the impact of donating much-needed items to residents or schoolchildren. Is there a local charity you can support?

Let me also revisit the issue of tipping.

A question I get often is: Should you tip on the pretax bill?

The general tipping guide for the Emily Post Institute, which offers etiquette advice, says you tip pretax. However, some servers argue that quibbling over whether you should tip pre- or post-tax is petty.

For example, let’s say your meal pretax is $100. With a 6 percent sales tax, the bill is $106. Before taxes, a 20 percent tip would bring the bill to $120. At $106, including tax, your bill would be $121.20.

So, no, you aren’t going against etiquette protocol to base your tip on just the meal and not the tax. Neither should you be called a miser if you tip pretax. However, the extra money could go a long way for someone trying to make ends meet on a low-wage salary.

Don’t be that tourist who shortchanges locals working in the travel industry. Frugality doesn’t mean you have to be miserly.

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Why are people protesting against tourists in Barcelona?

Thousands of protesters have hit the streets of central Barcelona to denounce mass tourism and its effect on Spain's most visited city, the latest in a series of similar marches around the country.

The protesters stopped in front of hotels and restaurants to confront tourists, symbolically taping off some businesses and carrying signs reading "Barcelona is not for sale" and "Tourists go home".

Footage showed demonstrators shooting colourful water pistols at tourists eating outdoors at restaurants, with some soggy diners awkwardly shuffling to a different table.

"I have nothing against tourism, but here in Barcelona we are suffering from an excess of tourism that has made our city unliveable," said Jordi Guiu, a 70-year-old sociologist.

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The group of protesters marching along a waterfront district in Barcelona on Saturday was some 2,800 strong, police said.

Here's what has led to the locals' frustrations bubbling over in the incredibly popular travel destination.

Housing costs in the heart of tensions

The key driver behind the protests is the rising cost of housing due to mass tourism, while the negative effects on local commerce and working conditions also play a role.

Housing costs in Barcelona have increased significantly, with rents up 68 per cent and the cost of buying a house up 38 per cent in the past decade , according to local authorities.

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In the past year alone, rents in the city rose by 18 per cent, according to property website Idealista.

"Local shops are closing to make way for stores that do not serve the needs of neighbourhoods. People cannot afford their rents," Isa Miralles, a 35-year-old musician who lives in the Barceloneta district, told AFP.

Short-term holiday rentals under scrutiny

Barcelona's mayor Jaume Collboni announced last month that it was banning tourist apartment rentals by 2028 to combat the "negative effects of mass tourism".

The plan is to scrap the licenses of the 10,000-plus apartments currently approved as short-term rentals and put them back on the local housing market .

"We are confronting what we believe is Barcelona's largest problem," Mr Collboni told a city government event.

The announcement could lead to a legal battle and is opposed by Barcelona's tourist apartments association, APARTUR, which says it will feed the black market.

"Collboni is making a mistake that will lead to [higher] poverty and unemployment," APARTUR said in a statement.

Inside Airbnb, a website providing data about the impact of the vacation rentals platform on residential communities, says there are over 18,000 listings in Barcelona .

More than half of the listings were entire homes or apartments , as opposed to a host renting out a room or section of a property they live in, according to the website. About one in three were unlicensed .

Nearly three quarters of hosts in the city had multiple listings .

Restrictions on short-term rentals have been announced by local governments around the world as residents increasingly get priced out of popular travel destinations due to gentrification and owner preference for lucrative tourist rentals over long-term rentals for locals.

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Tourism-reliant economy questioned

Spain has long been a popular holiday destination for its warm weather, rich history and sunny beaches.

But the country is struggling to balance promoting tourism, a key driver of its economy, and addressing citizens' concerns over housing availability and costs.

Spain was the second most-visited country in the world in 2023, behind France, according to World Tourism rankings by the United Nations World Tourism Organization.

It received 85 million foreign visitors in 2023, an increase of nearly 20 per cent from the previous year, according to the National Statistics Institute.

The most-visited region of Spain was Catalonia, with 18 million foreign visitors. Barcelona is the capital of Catalonia.

The coastal city alone, with its many internationally famous sites such as La Sagrada Familia, received more than 12 million tourists last year, according to local authorities.

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The protesters in Barcelona are aware of the importance of tourism to the economy, but want to see that change.

A protester told Reuters one of the reasons she was attending the demonstration was to protest "against the economic model based on mass tourism."

"This model makes us poorer and more dependent," said Nuria Suarez.

Tensions on the rise around Spain

Barcelona isn't the only place in Spain where tourism is creating tension in the local community.

The Barcelona protests come after similar demonstrations in other tourist hotspots such as Malaga, Palma de Mallorca and the Canary Islands, some attended by tens of thousands of people.

Seasonal hospitality workers struggle to find accommodation, with many resorting to sleeping in caravans or even their cars.

Protestors walk down a street holding signs that read "digital nomads go home"

The national government is taking notice, with Prime Minister Pedro Sanchez announcing last week that the government would create a registry of holiday rental properties in a bid to limit the number of listings .

Housing Minister Isabel Rodriguez said the registry would be ready by the end of 2025 at the earliest. When that happens, online platforms will have to provide data about hosts to verify if they are allowed to rent their homes.

The government is also looking to take steps to curb mid-term rentals ranging from one to 11 months, and may give neighbours in apartment blocks a say over whether an owner can list their property on platforms, the minister said.

But some don't feel the measures are enough.

"The rise of tourist rentals is a major problem and these measures are not serious," said Victor Palomo, leader of the Madrid Tenants' Union after meeting with the housing minister.

"It can't be that it's only neighbours that are in charge of regulating them," he said, calling for landlords to pay more taxes.

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My First Trip to Norway, With A.I. as a Guide

Can artificial intelligence devise a bucket-list vacation that checks all the boxes: culture, nature, hotels and transportation? Our reporter put three virtual assistants to the test.

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By Ceylan Yeğinsu

The assignment was clear: Test how well artificial intelligence could plan a trip to Norway, a place I’d never been. So I did none of my usual obsessive online research and instead asked three A.I. planners to create a four-day itinerary. None of them, alas, mentioned the saunas or the salmon.

Two assistants were, however, eager to learn more about me in order to tailor their initially generic recommendations, which they had spewed out within seconds. Vacay , a personalized travel planning tool, presented me with a list of questions, while Mindtrip , a new A.I. travel assistant, invited me to take a quiz. (ChatGPT, the third assistant, asked nothing.)

Vacay’s and Mindtrip’s questions were similar: Are you traveling solo? What’s your budget? Do you prefer hotels or Airbnbs? Would you rather explore the great outdoors or pursue a cultural experience?

Eventually, my chat sessions yielded what seemed like well-rounded itineraries, starting with one day in Oslo and moving on to the fjord region. Eventually, I locked down a trip that would combine the assistants’ information and go beyond a predictable list of sites.

This time around, my virtual planners were far more sophisticated than the simple ChatGPT interface I used last year on a trip to Milan. Though it offered more detailed suggestions for Norway, I ended up ditching ChatGPT in the travel-planning stage after it repeatedly crashed.

Vacay’s premium service, which starts at $9.99 per month, included in-depth suggestions and booking links, while Mindtrip, which is currently free, provided photos, Google reviews and maps. During the trip itself, each delivered instantaneous information by text and always asked if more specific details were needed. Sadly, only ChatGPT offered a phone app, whose information I found to be outdated (the $20-per-month premium version is more current).

I’m not alone when it comes to turning to A.I. for help: Around 70 percent of Americans are either using or planning to use A.I. for travel planning, according to a recent survey conducted by the Harris Poll on behalf of the personal finance app Moneylion, while 71 percent said using A.I. would most likely be easier than planning trips on one’s own.

I decided to find out for myself in Norway.

A whirlwind day in Oslo

After I landed at Oslo Airport, all three assistants directed me to the Flytoget Airport Express Train , which got me to town in 20 minutes. I was delighted to find my hotel adjacent to the central railway station.

Choosing accommodations had not been easy. I was looking for a midrange boutique hotel, and the A.I. assistants generated many options with little overlap. I went with Hotel Amerikalinjen , Vacay’s recommendation, which it described as “a vibrant and unique boutique hotel in the heart of Oslo.” Its location was the main draw, but overall the hotel exceeded my expectations, blending comfort and style with the 20th-century charm of its building, which once housed the headquarters of the Norwegian America Line shipping company.

For the one-day Oslo itinerary, the assistants were in agreement, packing in the city’s top sights, including the Vigeland Sculpture Park, the Royal Palace , the Nobel Peace Center, Akershus Fortress and the Munch Museum. I shared my location and asked each assistant to restructure the itineraries to start from my hotel. But when I gave in to my own research instincts and pulled up Google Maps, I saw that the order they suggested didn’t make sense, so I plotted my own path.

By the time I got to Frogner Park at midday, I had already covered half of the sights, and after walking past more than 200 sculptures by the Norwegian sculptor Gustav Vigeland, I was happy to sit down and admire his granite monolith of entwined humans.

For lunch, the assistants recommended high-end restaurants in the bustling waterfront neighborhood of Aker Brygge . But I wanted a quick bite in a more relaxed atmosphere, so I ditched A.I. and walked to the end of the promenade, where I stumbled upon the Salmon , a cozy establishment where I started with salmon sashimi that melted in my mouth and finished with a perfectly grilled fillet. How had my assistants not mentioned this place?

Next on my list was the Nobel Peace Center, the Opera House and the Munch Museum. The assistants had not recommended prebooking tickets, but fortunately, I had done so, learning, in the process, that the Peace Center was closed, a crucial bit of information that A.I. did not relay.

It was chilly for mid-June, and as I walked along the harbor promenade toward the Munch Museum, I spotted small floating saunas, which my assistants had not included. I went back to the ChatGPT phone app for recommendations. Even though I was eager to try a floating sauna, where people warmed themselves and then plunged straight into the frigid waters of the Oslofjord, I took ChatGPT’s suggestion and booked the Salt sauna, which is where I headed after spending a few hours at the Munch Museum, with its extensive works by the Norwegian artist and its sweeping views of Oslo’s harbor.

At the Salt cultural complex , a large pyramidal structure on the water, I was relieved that swimsuits were a requirement. In Scandinavia, saunas are usually taken naked , and earlier, I had asked ChatGPT for the etiquette at Salt, but it failed to give me a definitive answer. After sweating it out with around 30 strangers in Salt’s main sauna, I dipped into a cold-water barrel tub and then tried the smaller sauna options, which were hotter and quieter. It was the perfect ending to a long day.

Waterfalls, lush valleys, raging waters

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Each of my assistants had different ideas on how to reach the fjord region. ChatGPT suggested taking a seven-hour train ride and then immediately embarking on a two-hour fjord cruise, which sounded exhausting. Mindtrip suggested taking a short flight to Bergen, known as the “gateway to the fjords,” and setting out on a cruise the next day, which was perhaps more efficient, but would also mean missing one of the most scenic train rides in the world. Vacay also recommended a train ride.

After conversing with the assistants, I decided on a shorter train journey (six hours) that would deliver me to Naeroyfjord , a UNESCO World Heritage site with lush valleys and thundering waterfalls. But to figure out the logistics for transport and accommodation, I needed live train timetables, which I found on my own, and information on hotel availability that none of the assistants had.

At this point, I was desperate for human guidance to navigate the region’s expensive and limited accommodations. This is where the pictures and reviews on Mindtrip were useful, helping me to understand that I would be paying premium prices for the spectacular setting of a mediocre hotel.

The train ride from Oslo to Myrdal was breathtaking: rolling hills, mountain villages, fjords, waterfalls. But nothing prepared me for the majestic one-hour Flam railway ride that followed. Vacay had described it as an “engineering marvel” with a breathtakingly steep descent as it passes picturesque villages, dramatic mountains, raging rivers and pounding waterfalls, complete with a dance performance featuring a mythological spirit known as a huldra.

The next morning I boarded a Naeroyfjord cruise, recommended by Vacay, on an electric, 400-person vessel. I was surprised by the serenity of the fjord. Later I learned from a tour guide that I had been lucky to visit when there were no large cruise ships. It was hard to imagine an ocean liner maneuvering through the narrow, windy fjord, but when I asked ChatGPT, it told me 150 to 220 cruise ships squeezed through the fjord each year, a detail that I felt the travel assistants should warn travelers about.

The cruise ended in the village of Gudvangen, where rain made me cancel a hike to a waterfall and instead try my hand at ax-throwing in the Viking Village Njardarheim. The assistants had told me that there were buses that left town every four hours, a time frame that had worked with my original hiking plan, but now I was stuck. Thankfully, I took note of the A.I. disclaimers to check all information and found an alternative shuttle bus.

On my way to Bergen, I decided to stop in the town of Voss, famous for extreme sports like skydiving and spectacular nature. All the A.I.-suggested hotels were booked, but a Google search led me to the lakeside Elva hotel , which had delicious farm-to-table food. I suspect it didn’t make the A.I. shortlist because it was new.

I ended my trip in Bergen, which, despite being Norway’s second-largest city, maintains a small-town charm with its colorful wooden houses and cobblestone streets. With only half a day to explore, I followed Mindtrip’s short itinerary, starting with a hearty lunch of fish and chips at the bustling waterfront fish market and ending with a funicular ride up Mount Floyen for panoramic views of the city and fjords. The A.I. dinner suggestion at the Colonialen was perfect: cozy vibe, live jazz and locally sourced dishes.

The bottom line

None of the A.I. programs were perfect, but they did complement one another, allowing me to streamline my travel decisions.

Overall, Mindtrip — with its polished, dynamic interface that allowed me to cross-check details with maps, links and reviews — was my favorite. While it gave some good recommendations, Mindtrip needed more prompting than Vacay, which offered a wider variety of suggestions in more detail. Unfortunately, Vacay doesn’t save chat history, which I discovered halfway into my planning after closing the website’s tab on my browser.

The biggest drawback was the absence of phone apps for Mindtrip and Vacay, which led me to rely on ChatGPT’s basic A.I. assistant when I needed on-the-spot guidance. Mindtrip, I’ve since learned, is planning to debut an app in September.

Still, there were times when I desperately craved the human touch. Before setting out on a trip, I always contact friends and colleagues for recommendations. This time, as part of the A.I. experiment, I refrained from reaching out to a Norwegian friend until after my trip, only to find out that we had both been in Oslo at the same time.

That’s one element of travel that I doubt A.I. will ever master: serendipity.

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WASHINGTON (AP) — Air travel got more miserable last year, if the number of consumer complaints filed with the U.S. government is any measure.

The Transportation Department said Friday that it received nearly 97,000 complaints in 2023, up from about 86,000 the year before. The department said there were so many complaints that it took until July to sort through the filings and compile the figures.

That’s the highest number of consumer complaints about airlines since 2020, when airlines were slow to give customers refunds after the coronavirus pandemic shut down air travel.

The increase in complaints came even as airlines canceled far fewer U.S. flights — 116,700, or 1.2% of the total, last year, compared with about 210,500, or 2.3%, in 2022 , according to FlightAware data. However, delays remained stubbornly high last year, at around 21% of all flights.

So far this year, cancellations remain relatively low — about 1.3% of all flights — but delays are still running around 21%.

More than two-thirds of all complaints last year dealt with U.S. airlines , but a quarter covered foreign airlines. Most of the rest were about travel agents and tour operators.

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Complaints about treating passengers with disabilities rose by more than one-fourth compared with 2022. Complaints of discrimination, while small in number, also rose sharply. Most were about race or national origin.

The Transportation Department said the increase in complaints was partly the result of more consumers knowing about their rights and the ability to file a complaint. The department said it helped Southwest Airlines customers get more than $600 million in refunds and reimbursements after the carrier canceled nearly 17,000 flights during December 2022. Southwest also paid a $35 million fine .

Airlines receive many more complaints from travelers who don’t know how or don’t bother to complain to the government, but the carriers don’t release those numbers.

The Transportation Department is modernizing its complaint-taking system, which the agency says will help it do a better job overseeing the airline industry. However, the department now releases complaint numbers many months late. It did not issue figures for the second half of 2023 until Friday.

The Transportation Department’s online complaint form is at https://secure.dot.gov/air-travel-complaint

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Thousands of protesters marched through Barcelona over the weekend to express anger at mass tourism and its impacts on Spain's most visited city. Bystanders dining in restaurants in the popular La Barceloneta neighborhood were soaked when some protesters sprayed them with water guns. 

Video showed diners being forced to change tables at some restaurants to escape the protests on Saturday, while other restaurants were symbolically taped off by the demonstrators.

Carrying banners reading "Tourists go home," protesters called for a reduction in the number of foreign visitors to Barcelona, stopping in front of hotels and restaurants to confront tourists.

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"I have nothing against tourism, but here in Barcelona we are suffering from an excess of tourism that has made our city unliveable," one of the demonstrators told the French news agency AFP.

Local authorities say the cost of housing has risen 68% in the Spanish city over the past decade, becoming one of the main points of contention for the disgruntled residents.

"The last years, the city has turned completely for tourists, and what we want is a city for citizens and not in service of tourists," another protester told a Reuters news camera.   

In June, Mayor of Barcelona Jaume Collboni said that by 2028, he would stop renewing the thousands of tourist licenses that permit landlords to rent out accommodation to foreign visitors. The move would make the homes, which are currently advertised on platforms such as Airbnb, available to locals, according to Collboni.

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More than 12 million tourists visited the city, famed for sights such as the Sagrada Familia basilica, last year alone, according to local authorities.

The latest protest comes after similar large-scale demonstrations in other tourist hotspots across Spain. A protest in Málaga, in the southern part of the country, drew some 15,000 people to rally against over-tourism in June, while the island of Palma de Mallorca saw more than 10,000 people march against the impact of mass tourism in May.

According to Spain's national statistics office INE, the first five months of 2024 alone saw more than 33 millions tourists visit the country, which represents an increase of 13.6% compared to the previous year.

Spain isn't the only European nation grappling with the impact of tourism on the local population. Earlier this year, Venice, Italy became the first city to impose a fee on daily visitors.

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Conservation groups have spoken out in defence of seagulls after reports of "XL" gulls terrorising towns, bombarding beach-goers and even attacking cats.

Experts say that seagulls are "in serious trouble" and insist that humans are to blame for rising numbers of birds in towns and cities.

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"A great annual conflict is underway," said The Telegraph , as humans and seagulls "come face to face in a chip-based standoff". Now that summer is here, "giant swarms" of gulls have been accused of attacking sea-siders , traumatising children and are "even being blamed for postal delays".

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For many, these "large, intimidating birds", which have "occasionally been caught on camera eating whole squirrels and drowning pigeons", are "considered a menace".

No one is safe from the "beachfront bandits" that are "terrorising" Britain's seaside towns, said the Daily Mail . "Gangs of shrieking seagulls" are apparently "prowling the skies and dive-bombing onto helpless victims across the UK", like "a scene from an Alfred Hitchcock movie".

"Quivering locals" have relived "brutal run-ins with the flying fiends", said the Daily Star , as "ripped" seagulls are "terrorising towns". Describing them as "smarmy seagulls", the Daily Mail said they will "stop at nothing", so "step out at your own peril".

'Entrepreneurs not scroungers'

But scientists say that seagulls are being forced into our towns by the loss of natural spaces. The birds have been "excluded from their natural habitats by human activities", said the BBC , so they "have little choice but to move into urban areas to pick through our waste".

The balance between rural to urban has "flipped", said The Telegraph, as there are now 176,000 pairs of herring gulls and 269,000 pairs of lesser black-backed gulls in urban areas, compared with 61,000 and 55,000 respectively in "non-urban situations".

Those urban figures mean that many people think numbers are going up, whereas all Britain's breeding species are actually on the red or amber lists of the British Trust for Ornithology's Birds of Conservation Concern. The group said that the UK's gulls are "in serious trouble" and called for the first time for volunteers to count gulls during the autumn.

Seagulls are facing "multiple pressures", from "avian flu to depleted fish stocks" and we "need to learn to live alongside them", experts told the BBC. "When we see behaviours we think of as mischievous or criminal – almost", said Professor Paul Graham of the University of Sussex, we're actually "seeing a really clever bird implementing very intelligent behaviour".

So we could regard them as "entrepreneurs rather than scroungers, refugees rather than aliens", Tim Dee, author of "Landfill: Notes on Gull Watching and Trash Picking in the Anthropocene", told The Telegraph.

Viola Ross-Smith, from the British Trust for Ornithology, said she thinks seagulls are "actually fascinating and quite beautiful birds", even though she is "someone who has been attacked and pooed on by them".

Despite the scare stories, gulls aren't generally violent. "Not unless they’re defending their chicks", said The Guardian . And although "there are occasionally reports of minor injuries when they swoop to steal food", it's "definitely chips" they want, "not blood".

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